TRUST + RESPECT + LOVE = FRIENDSHIP

I am really glad that I belong to the generation when we could play with our friends after school. This statement may seem a little unsettling for most of my readers and immediately they will ask me the following question.

‘Do you mean to say, that today’s children don’t play after school???’

It is extremely unfortunate that the answer is a big NO. I will indeed not consider playing games on computer and mobile phones as anything useful. Friendships made during childhood are indeed the ones which stand the test of time. Our childhood is incomplete without those friends. We play, fight, argue and learn with them. Sometimes lessons of life are taught during those silly fights and carefree laughter. Back then, we never realised that it wouldn’t last forever! If we knew it, maybe we would have shared and enjoyed every single moment of the years that we spent together. I don’t even remember the day when I met my friend for the first time but even after years the warmth in our friendship is still the same.

In the journey of life we meet many people who become our friends. Some stay with us for days, some for months and some for years. There are a few, whom we might have met just for a day but still remember them for some strange reason. The friendships that we build after adolescence are mostly out of choice or by chance. The ones that we build, as children, have innocence and mischief which actually make them special. We love them unconditionally no matter what they turn out to be in life once they grow up. In today’s virtual world when staying in touch is no big ordeal, we still long for the comforting hands which held ours while running into the Sunday sunshine. As a kid I had amazing friends with whom I played every evening and on Saturdays especially, we would continue playing until it was time for dinner (we knew the time only when our mothers called out for us!).

During childhood, gender hardly plays a role in the choice of friends. But later on in life, we tend to make more friends who belong to the same gender as ours. It is really unfortunate, that most of the time friendship between boys and girls is misconstrued. I strongly believe that friendship is the only place where men and women treat each other as individuals and understand each other without any preconceived notions. Today we see in many soft skills training classes where the trainers make boys and girls sit next to each other, so that they interact with the opposite gender. How unfortunate!!! We have to go to some class to learn to interact with members who belong to the same species as ours! Society and parents play a major role in fostering friendship between girls and boys. I strongly believe in co-education and I can vouch for the fact that it is the best way to learn lessons of life. One more thing that I find really ridiculous is the practice of making boys and girls sit in separate rows in the class. What is the point in having co-education when you are going to punish them for sitting together?

I have a really sincere advice for all the parents, teachers, schools, colleges and the society –

Please trust our boys and girls!!!

Your trust will go a long way in the betterment of our society. If there is friendship between boys and girls, they will learn to respect not only each other but also their thoughts and ideas. In my point of view it may also reduce the number rapes, molestations, perverse behaviour, domestic violence and harassment of both men and women.

Luckily some things never change in life, friendship is one of them…


Comments

  1. Raffath15 June 2015 at 15:23

    When I looked back I realised tat evn I am lucky lik u...

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    1. Sahana L15 June 2015 at 22:17

      This blog is a tribute to our friendship Raffi :) My childhood is incomplete without you and Vinoj :)

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