What makes a woman beautiful?

She stared hard at the picture. It was the 37th selfie that she had taken for the day. She changed the angle of the phone and took another selfie. Once again, she was not satisfied. Looking through all the pictures that she had taken in the past half an hour, she chose the 13th one and uploaded it as her profile picture on Facebook. Then began her endless wait for likes from people she might have not even seen in years.

Sounds familiar?

Well, this could be an incident from anybody’s life. Of all the time she spent in looking at herself from the lens of a 13MP camera lens, she should have tried to see herself from the window of her heart. Within seconds, she would have realized how beautiful she was…

Woman – the embodiment of beauty!

The tragedy in today’s world is that one does not feel beautiful unless you receive approval or appreciation from someone. Anyone! Somehow, the society lives with a perception that a woman should always look well-groomed. It is no wonder that that the global beauty care products industry is forecasted to reach 265 billion dollars by 2017. These days, men are also catching up with women and the market is flooded with beauty products for men. Yet, we cannot deny the fact that even today a man can just walk out of his house wearing just a pair of old shorts and a worn out T-shirt, sporting unkempt hair. If a woman tried the same stunt, her family might just give her up for adoption!

Why is there so much pressure on a woman to look “beautiful”?

The law of nature says that the female chooses the appropriate male so that the progeny is healthy and strong. Even history has instances where there was a ‘Swayamvar’ conducted for the lady to choose the man who won her heart. But apparently, we have become ultra-modern now, so the man gets to choose his bride and has a freewill to reject women based on their physical appearance. The wedding business is no way fair to men either. Men are judged based on their ability to own a house, a car and earn a 6-figure salary per month.  Yet, it is true that the power of rejection lies undeniably with the men. Even the best of women have been put to shame for lame reasons when they enter the marriage market.

Only as a toddler, a girl would not be conscious of her appearance. Once she steps out of her house, every pair of eyes start judging her for the way she has dressed for the day. When it comes to colourful outfits, women are spoilt for choice. It is good to have options, but to what extent? Just take a moment and count the pairs of footwear you have or the number of earrings you have bought in any random place. Who on earth wrote the rule that the colour of your sandals should match the colour of your dupatta? Dear woman, open your wardrobe and count the number of clothes that you have piled up over the years. If I ask you the necessity for so many clothes, you will certainly give me a reason for each one of them. There is no point in blaming women for being dress hoarders. It is the society which has made them so desperate to look presentable at any given point of time.

What makes a woman beautiful?

It is not the matching clothes, numerous accessories or the hours spent in a beauty parlour which make her beautiful. Have you ever watched her sound asleep just before dawn when she looks her innocent best? That shy smile she gives when you give her a simple compliment. The water droplets on her forehead when she walks out after a shower with wet tresses of hair sticking to her delicate cheeks. A mother when she is lovingly feeding her child. A nervous girl with her forehead creased while awaiting her exam result. The lady who eats her favourite chocolate while smearing her mouth and chocolate melting over her fingers. The woman peering into her laptop with concentration burning in her eyes. The not-in-tune song that she sings when no one is around. When she hugs you warmly after a long, tiring day. The comfort of her lap when you needed the most. That long deep kiss which let you taste her soul…

Her beauty is not to be seen but to be felt…

Dear woman, see into yourself rather than just looking into a mirror. Your appearance might get you someone’s attention for only a couple of minutes. There is no need to live for approval and appreciation. Always remember that you are unique and precious. Respect yourself and believe in your ability. Eventually, this world will learn to respect you and accept your ipseity.

Woman, you are beautiful the way you are!



Comments

  1. fait accompli8 March 2017 at 21:52

    beautiful write-up! :)women need to realize that their beauty lies in their immense resilience and not in how many 'likes' they get from others!

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    1. Sahana L9 March 2017 at 01:11

      Thank you :) I am glad that I could get the message across to people :)

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